AULIA
CHINDIYANA PRIMA
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I had to do this for my English paper,
but I feel so pasionated about stopping bullying. Probably because when I was
in Junior High School, I was bullied by my Senior. I was in pain and so
depressed back then. I did not want to go to school for three days, did not
want to go to canteen, did not want to go to toilet at school because I was
bullied in front of the toilet, and that`s all what makes me choose STOP
BULLYING to be my topic.
Bullying is a big problem for everyone especially
children and young people. It makes them lose their confidence and make them
afraid going to school each day. This
seriously a big problem because bullying has become the main issue in
Indonesia. There are so many kind of bullying like teasing, talking about
hurting someone, spreading rumors, attacking someone by hitting them or yelling
at them and cyber bullying. Cyber Bullying is a type of bullying that happens
online or through a text messages or email. It includes posting rumors on sites
like facebook or twitter and Instagram.
Kids who are bullied have a hard time standing up for
themselves. They think the kid who bullies them is more powerful than they are.
Bullying can make them sad,lonely or nervous, feel sick, have a problems at
school, and bully other kids as well.
kids who are bulliedccan feel like they are different, powerless, unpopular,
alone, useless.
Kids who bully others have so many reasons, they may be
want to copy their friends that they think the victim is so popular, think
bullying will help them fit in, think they are better that the kid they are
bullying or maybe they are an attention seeker. Bullying is never ok. Those who
use power to hurt people are useless. And power does not always mean bigger or
stronger. Power can also mean popular or smart or preety. Kids who bully can
have a problem too, maybe at their house, their social life.
There are three ways to stopping bullying, those are : Educating
the bullies, imposing greater sanctions for the bullies and protecting the
victim. The main reason why the bullies should be educated is that many of them
are not aware of how much they are hurting victim. The second way to deal with the bullies is to
punish them. This could be the only thing that works for incredibly nasty
people, because they will only care when it begins to affect them. Bullying
often is not taken seriously enough. The final main way to deal with bullying
is involves working with the victim. Victims of bullying need to know their
self-worth so that they do not just accept what is happening to them, and need
to be taught to be assertive without just being aggressive.
Bullies usually also come from homes where the parents
fight a lot, so violence has been modeled for them. Parental involvement often
is lacking in bullies lives and there seems to be little warmth. Early
intervention and effective discipline and boundaries truly is the best way to
stop bullying. But parent of the victims or therapist can not change the
bully’s home environment.
Bullying causes so much pain both physically and
mentally. Sometimes teens are bullied for ther face, appearance and sometimes
their sexual preferences. When i was in junior high school, i was bullied
because of my senior (girl) hearing a rumour about me. Well, when i was in
junior high school at 2nd grade, i had a boyfriend and we really enjoy being a
couple but then this girl (my senior) came and took my boyfriend, and at first
i was feeling so sad because of that. But then, when i was at school and she
came to me and asked me something about him. She asked me if he ever told me
that this girl who always flirted him. And I say yes. And she told me that is
not true, and i nod my chin as i understand what she`s saying.
And a week later, she came to me and yell at me saying
that im a useless person and im not a good person. And I was so surprised to
hear that, I did not do anything wrong but why is she acting crazy? Everytime I
walked by her class, her friends always yell at me and teasing me. I got so
many friends, but they are too afraid to help me because this girl had so many
power (as a senior). Once, I ever came to an empty class and they following me,
and Im alone, with this crazy senior and her friends. And i was really afraid,
i want to cry but i can`t. And then, my two friends came, actually they are not
my really friends, they are my senior but not like those crazy seniors. They
help me to finished the problem, and then it`s clear. she said that she regret
to yell at me and teasing me. And i forgive her.
But,
that is not the end of my story. A month later, another senior (This time is a
boy) he asked my phone number, but i do not have a phone, so i just asked his
phone number and promised that i will text him if i have a chance to text him
with my mommy`s phone. But then, i borrowed my friend`s phone to text him, at
first i do not want to text him because im afraid, but then his friends told me
that he fallen in love with me, so what i should be afraid of ? this is a
chance to have a senior boyfriend *evil laugh*. After one month being in a
relationship with this handsome senior, i fell like i have a power in this
school, because finally i can date a senior, and there is no one who can hurt
me, because i have him. And im happy.
But,
because of a national exam, we had to break up, he said that he wanted to study
well for national exam. And ya, i said yes. And we broke up, and i had a really
bad times at school after that because of once again, another senior (girl)
flirted with my Ex. And i saw her from the second floor, i was in English
Laboratory. And i feel like im dying when one of my classmate asked “hey, look
at you boyfriend being flirted by that crazy girl, are you not jealous or mad
of her?” and i just kept quiet and suddenly he looked me. He looked me and then
he stared at me for a few seconds. But then, I found him held her hand. I did
not do anything, i just kept quiet and looked at them for a few minutes.
A
week later, this crazy senior came to me again, and yelled at me again, shouted
me, teasing me, making fun of me, terrorize me and others. But i do not know
what exactly that made her being crazy like that. Maybe she wants to take a
revenge ? for what ? for me being happy ? maybe she got jealous because of i
can date one of most handsome senior? I dont know, but after those hard times.
Everyone knows me, every seniors, boys and girls. And there are so many boy
seniors that help me and promised me that that crazy seniors will not be
bullying me again. And that`s worked!
As
I read from an internet that when kids see bullying or being a victim, they may
not know what to do. They may feel depressed or worried. They may be absent
from school because they do not feel safe. They may join in or stay silent so
they will not get bullied themselves. And that`s absolutely right, because i
felt it.
Bullying
is very negative and creates problems for our society. Nothing good comes out
of bullying. It could very well change or ruin a person`s life. In fact, it
does ruin many people`s lives. Kids can be mentally scarred if they are teased
often. Even worse, they could be killed or fatally injured if the bullying gets
extreme. There are many cuses for bullying which must be taken care of before
bullying can be stopped.
Many
kids don`t take bullying seriously. However, when a real incident occurs, they
are unprepared, shocked, regretful, or dead. Bullying must stop, for it
destroying the lives and futures of many innocents, perhaps not killing them,
but running them. People may end up physically disorter, paralyzed or dead
because of bullying. Aside from physical harm, there is asso mental harm. This
is equally as destructive. Kids may become extremely depressed from being
bullid. As a result, they may refuse to eat, become suicidal, or in return
bully other kids to make themselves feel better.
Source
:
http://psychcentral.com/lib/how-do-we-stop-bullying-in-schools/
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